Creating the Sex Education WE NEED with KIMBRITIVE
Creating the Sex Education WE NEED with KIMBRITIVE
Ms. Reid shares ninety minutes of laughter with Brittany & Kimberly co-founders of KIMBRITIVE a sexual wellness space. They tell her the personal experiences & systematic short-comings that led them to develop & create inclusive, comprehensive, trauma-informed sexual education workshops. Sharing why using brown vulvas & anatomically accurate tools in their workshops matters, educating her on reproductive rights, the truth about abortions, minor’s rights, statistics on sexual assault and so much more.
You Can Expect to Learn:
- Why your doctor may not be the best resource for sexual education. [37 min mark]
- Statistics across communities about abortions including who gets them and who funds them. [32 min mark]
- How long internal condoms can be inserted
- HIPPA v Insurance Disclosures [42min mark]
- The role family dynamics plays into the type of sexual education you get at home
- How to make sexual education age appropriate at different grade levels
Resources
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KIMBRITIVE Founders
Founders of KIMBRITIVE, Kimberly Huggins & Brittany Brathwaite lie head to head in the grass in black girl bliss.
Are You Ready to Date?
Have you ever been on a date with someone, who suddenly began to talk about their ex? Do you walk into new dating experiences with the expectation that all of your compatible matches are the same? Did you witness your parents’ relationship fall apart? Did that change your opinion and approach to dating and relationships?
If you answered yes to any of that, you HAVE to watch my discussion with matchmaker and dating coach Valerie Rivera of Val’s Bytes about Dating and Daddy Issues. We talked about the types of insecurities that show up in relationships, and how their often times manifestations of our Daddy Issues. She shared some tips on how both men and women can assess themselves and make sure they are READY to date before they hop into another relationship hurting, or hurt someone else.
Press play for more, & let us know if and where you fall on the “Abandonment Spectrum”
Your Man is NOT your Dad
Last night I had the pleasure of speaking with Life Coach, Judith Rapley. We discussed Perfect Daddy Syndrome, which leads many women tobe disappointed when the men the date or marry don’t live up to the foundations that their Dads have laid for them. One of the greatest take-a-ways I gained from this conversation was “We often forget the nature of the father-daughter relationship was never intended to mirror that of a romantic partnership” You should not be looking for a man to replicate the relationship you have with your Dad because a king rules alongside his QUEEN, not his princess. It’s ok to want your mate to share certain qualities with your Dad, but partnerships and parenthood are not synonymous. Take a glance at our conversation and learn not only about “Perfect Daddy Syndrome” but also about seasonal depression and family ties. Feel free to leave a comment if you have any questions.
Step Parenting Ain’t Easy…but Sherelle has a Secret to Share
Whether you’ve dated a Daddy like I did, became a bonus mom like Jada when she married Will, or find yourself caught up in Baby Mama drama like some of the ladies on your favorite reality tv series, Sherelle Avery has a tip for you. A proud stepmother, learning through LOVE everyday Sherelle decided to be a resource to other blended families by sharing her story. She started The Secret Behind the Step a year ago, to share the lessons she learned as a mother in a blended family, not just about parenting but about all the complexities that come along with it. She’s organized a brunch with panelists from all fields of life to support the needs of blended families still figuring it out. To learn more about the Blended, Beautiful & Blessed Brunch, WHY she started The Secret Behind the Step, WHERE she’s taking it next, WHAT her Secret to being a Dope Step Mom, is watch our discussion “Step Up & Blend” below. Be sure to share your thoughts in the comments!
Epic Endurance: Using the Power Your Childhood Taught You
On Mondays with Ms. Reid I had a conversation with the viewers about not having a monopoly on Daddy Issues. No matter how complex my story may be it doesn’t diminish anyone else’s.
If you’ve been following since the beginning you know I’m a firm believer that Daddy Issues manifest themselves in different ways. And once upon a time I didn’t believe I had any.
Last night I had the pleasure of talking with the founder of Women Recharged, Aprille Franks-Hunt about the Daddy Issues she never really knew she had. And how they influence the woman she is today.
Life is about learning and UN-Learning the habits we see and adapt as part of own character. Aprille Franks-Hunt tells us how witnessing and experiencing intimate partner violence, taught her to OWN YOUR POWER. How growing up overseas she developed a “Never fit anyone else’s mold for you” mentality. And so much more, from motherhood to business and the types of conversations women need to have more often.
It’s much bigger than Daddy Issues, it’s about understanding the psychological cycles we’re brought up in & understanding that once you acknowledge the cycle, you have the power to end it. Do yourself a favor & watch this conversation!
Would YOU Kill For Love?
Last month TVOne premiered a film about a real woman, a woman who supposedly killed in the name of love. However, when I watched the movie, that’s not what I saw. I saw, young woman who grew up in an unstable home taken advantage of who killed as a means of fear and survival. The movie I’m referencing is When Love Kills: The Falicia Blakely Story starring Lil Mama and Lance Gross. The film left me with questions so I did some research on the real Falicia Blakely post viewing and it’s a sad story. Falicia Blakely, who looks nothing like Lil Mama by the way, was only 18 at the time of these murders and Dino, played by Lance Gross is 13 years her senior. I was unable to gage the characters ages, let alone such a large age gap from viewing the movie.
What I was able to gather however, was that Falicia grew up in a home without a father or reliable father figure. Her mother was more concerned with having her moist loins tended to than the whereabouts of her teenaged daughter. Falicia started stripping because the money was good. Sh kept stripping because the money was good. Where she started slipping was when she started looking for love in the club.
She didn’t have a father’s love or guidance in the home and her mother seemed to have revolving door of unsuitable suitors, so really, she didn’t know what to look for. She fell for a man who was down for the ride until the responsibilities got real. Then she met Dino.
He’s a smooth talker and a big tipper and he shows her affection. He convinces her she’s “Too good to be stripping” and she falls for a fantasy where he’ll take care of her, only to learn he’s only sold her half the dream. Once she buys in and quits the club, she reminds him that he told her that she’s “Too good to be stripping” and he conveniently adds, “at THAT club.”
Falicia is thrown off, but complies any way. She leaves the new club satisfied with how much money she’s made, Dino isn’t. He headbutt’s her and tells her if she worked longer she could have earned more. She’s left fearful and confused, he apologizes, but this is only the beginning.
The movie aims to tell the story of a young woman who kills for love, however I saw it as an example of the type of intimate partner violence young women are vulnerable to when they don’t have a representation of a healthy relationship in the home.
I read an article about how intimate partner violence that says something called “trauma-bonding” is what makes people stay in abusive relationships. Despite being tricked into leaving one club only to end up stripping in another, she stayed because she was waiting for the charming Dino she first met to reappear. When he headbutt her, he may have apologized, but he also showed her exactly the type of physical pain he was capable of inflicting on her at any unsuspecting moment. He even went so far as to keep her daughter away from her. If that weren’t enough, he convinced her that he wanted to provide her and her daughter with a whole new life, but they needed a certain amount of money to make it happen. So she was stripping with a dollar amount in mind.
In a short time with Dino, Falicia experienced physical, emotional and financial abuse. She earned all the money he said they needed to leave and start a new life only to see Dino use it for other purposes. He convinced her that robbery was a faster way to make the money back than stripping. He gave her a gun and a deadline. Falicia didn’t kill those men for love. She killed them as a means of survival. She wanted a life where she Dino, and her daughter could live together happily, a life where she didn’t have to dance for dollars to make it happen. And they were only obstacles in her way.
If Falicia had parents she could turn to, would those men still be alive?
