When you don’t have a lover, & you’re tired of being a “secretary” #DomesticViolenceAwarenessMonth in October we wear purplePurple lips #DomesticViolenceAwarenessMonth Jewels Inc taught me. We wear purple in OctoberStill October. Still #DomesticViolenceAwarenessMonth 10,000,000. The number of children exposed to domestic violence every year.1 in 15 children are exposed to intimate partner violence each year, and 90% of these children are eyewitnesses to this violence. #DomesticViolenceAwarenessMonth #domesticviolenceawareness #dvawarenessmonth #DVAM15On average a woman will return to her abuser 7 times before leaving for good. This summer I heard the story of a woman who was beaten BLIND by her children’s father. She showed her Social Worker old photos of herself & said ” You see all those sunglasses I was wearing? Those were to hide the black eyes.”Children who live in homes where there is domestic violence also suffer abuse or neglect at high rates (30% to 60%)I paint my lips purple for the women who suffer in silence. Who’s confidence take hits with every interaction with someone who claimed to love them. For children who learn only what they see & grow to continue these cycles because the village is too scared to tell them anything different.8,000,000 The number of days of paid work women lose every year because of the abuse perpetrated against them by current or former male partners. This loss is equivalent to over 32,000 full time jobs.-Huffington PostDomestic violence is most likely to take place between 6 pm & 6am. More than 60% of Domestic violence incidents happen at home.When you wanna be Freddie from #ADifferentWorld so bad. Then you remember… Studies show that 3-4 million children between the ages of 3-17 are at risk of exposure to domestic violence each year. U.S. government statistics say that 95% of domestic violence cases involve women victims of male partners. The children of these women often witness the domestic violence. …Freddie was an advocate & activist for human rights. Gotta start somewhere.Thehotline.org encourages us to remember ways to assist family and friends in unhealthy relationships BE NON-JUDGMENTAL. Respect your friend or family member’s decisions. There are many reasons why victims stay in abusive relationships. They may leave and return to the relationship many times. Do not criticize their decisions or try to guilt them. They will need your support even more during those timesDomestic violence costs more than $37 billion a year in law enforcement involvement, legal work, medical and mental health treatment, and lost productivity at companiesDon’t discount the psychological effects Nearly half of all women and men in the United States have experienced psychological aggression by an intimate partner in their lifetime (48.4% and 48.8%, respectively).[vii]As the weather changes & increased awareness of depression and other “invisible illnesses” is shared, let’s be mindful of how intricate & interwoven the pieces of our mental and physical health are. Studies suggest that there is a relationship between intimate partner violence and depression and suicidal behavior. (ncadv.org)Most female victims of intimate partner violence were previously victimized by the same offender, including 77% of females ages 18 to 24, 76% of females ages 25 to 34, and 81% of females ages 35 to 49. Look for the patterns, seek help before you become a habitual victim. (Thehotline.org)Don’t be your daughter’s first dose of abuse. In a study of 724 adolescent mothers between the ages of 12-18, one of every eight pregnant adolescents reported having been physically assaulted by the father of her baby during the preceding 12 months. Of these, 40 percent also reported experiencing violence at the hands of a family member or relative. (Americanbar.org)“You don’t always need water to drown.” -S.D.REID Those who grow up with domestic violence are 6 times more likely to commit suicide and 50 times more likely to abuse drugs and alcohol. (cdv.org)As a proud college graduate, I find it important to highlight how #domesticviolence effects college students. 21% of college students report having experienced dating violence by a current partner. 32% experienced dating violence by a pervious partner. 13% of college women report they were forced to have sex by a dating partner.Preserve your child’s childhood. Living with domestic violence significantly alters a child’s DNA, aging them prematurely 7-10 yearsMy cousin was such a curious & creative child that my mom used to call him her Steven Spielberg. After witnessing & experiencing abuse in his home, he became violent and less creative, eventually landing in a juvenile detention facility. Children who witness violence may be more aggressive and fight more often. Growing up with violence affects a child’s basic drive to explore the world. Natural curiosity is thwarted. Children may be less willing to try new things. (Childwitnesstoviolence.org)An estimated 600,000 to 800,000 men, women and children are trafficked across international boarders each year, and approximately 80% of trafficking victims are women and girls.Only 34% of people who are injured by intimate partners receive medical care for their injuries. (ncadv.org) Don’t make the #HotlineBling & avoid receiving treatment for your suffering. I’m 24, I KNOW & LOVE victims and survivors of intimate partner violence/domestic violence. There’s help available.A study of intimate partner homicides found that 20% of victims were not the intimate partners themselves, but family members, friends, neighbors, persons who intervened, law enforcement responders, or bystanders.Myth: Young children will not remember the violence they have witnessed. Children do not forget what they have witnessed. Adults hope that if the violence is not talked about, the children’s memories of the event will disappear. However, young children demonstrate a remarkable capacity for recalling traumatic events. Children’s vivid accounts of violent events stand in contrast to parent’s reports that their children did not see the violence or were unaware of it.Heavy is the head that wears the crown. Physical, mental, and sexual and reproductive health effects have been linked with intimate partner violence including adolescent pregnancy, unintended pregnancy in general, miscarriage, stillbirth, intrauterine haemorrhage, nutritional deficiency, abdominal pain and other gastrointestinal problems, neurological disorders, chronic pain, disability, anxiety and post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), as well as noncommunicable diseases such as hypertension, cancer and cardiovascular diseases. Victims of domestic violence are also at higher risk for developing addictions to alcohol, tobacco, or drugs.7 (ncadv.org)Financial abuse holds victims back from becoming survivors. Between 21-60% of victims of intimate partner violence lose their jobs due to reasons stemming from the abuse. Purplepurse.com helps victims find resources & develop plans to leave.81%of women who are stalked by a current or former male partner are also physically abused by that partner.8,000,000 The number of days of paid work women lose every year because of the abuse perpetrated against them by current or former male partners. This loss is equivalent to over 32,000 full time jobs.-Huffington PostMore than 3 million children witness domestic violence in their homes every year.daaamndaddyA woman is 70 times more likely to be murdered in the few weeks after leaving her abuser than at any other point in the relationship. When you encourage a woman to leave, make sure you help her have a plan first. Or be prepared to take in her children.Knock out Domestic violence. Today may be the last day of #DomesticViolenceAwarenessMonth but don’t let it be the last day you educate yourself on the effects intimate partner has on the victims, the children who witness it, & the friends and family members that step in to show support. Visit Thehotline.org for more tips for support and to speak to trained counselors. Visit Purplepurse.com for conversation starters to help those you know are suffering or financial planning if you are the victim. Remember being available & suspending judgment can save a life.#DomesticViolenceAwarenessMonth #dvawarenessmonth #DVAM15 #SeeDV #purplelips #PURPLEBOXINGGLOVES #purplewithapurpose ?
