Senseless Fashion Statements
My love for sunglasses probably started from playing in my mothers belongings as a child. She used to keep a basket full of sunglasses on her dresser. They were pretty cool, some even had multi-colored lenses, it was the 90s and my mom was kind of poppin.
As I got older, I developed a fetish with sunglasses as a protective accessory to keep things from blowing in my sensitive eyes.
This summer however, I learned of a woman who was a survivor of Domestic Violence. For years she used sunglasses as stylish Fashion Statements to hide the black eyes she received during physical altercations with the father of her children. These physical altercations were so brutal and frequent that they eventually resulted in the loss of her eyesight. Yup, that’s right, she was BEATEN BLIND, by her sons’ father and now what was once considered great sense of fashion, is a protective accessory for what little sensitivity the nerves in her eyes have left.
What’s more, this woman had sons with this man. It wasn’t made clear if their children were present during the final fight that led to her loss of sight, but statistics show that Worldwide, men who were exposed to domestic violence as children are 3 to 4 times more likely to perpetuate intimate partner violence as adults than men who were not exposed to domestic abuse as children. That means her two sons are statistically more likely to commit similar acts against the women they choose to date as adults.
In the video I mention SCANDAL and Kerry Washington, who serves as this year’s ambassador for Purple Purse an Allstate Foundation. They have a Financial Empowerment Curriculum, to help women devise a financial plan to leave.
A woman is 70 times more likely to be murdered in the two weeks after leaving than at any other point in the relationship.
Encourage those you know to do better. Help survivors you know be smart about getting out. Especially if there are children involved, if not, the cycle continues.